When we speak about faith most of us think about our spiritual lives. Well today we will be looking at the faith that you have in yourself. As we grow up most of us do not have people encouraging us to have faith in ourselves, we do not have people helping us build our self-esteem. Because of this we have people with very low self-esteem and no confidence in themselves. It is very important that we teach children from a very young age that they can be whoever and whatever they want to be and they should not be apologetic for who they are.
Never say “You should be like your sibling“
Every child should be told how special they are and how they should never compare themselves to anyone not even their siblings. If you are in the habit of saying things like this is the prettier sister or the smarter child you are not doing children any good. If you are that parent that tells your child that they should be like their sibling this is also not good. Everyone has special qualities that differentiates them from everyone else and that makes them special. It may be that one is a gentle soul or they love to read or they just see the world differently from everyone else.
Become your own cheerleader
Learning about self-fulfilling prophecies was such an eye opener for me, it helped to put things into perspective. Have you ever realised that children that are called naughty only seem to get naughtier? Hearing something over and over again will make you believe that one thing be it positive or negative so be careful what you say to other people and what you say to yourself. You have to become your number one supporter and your own cheerleader. Being your own critic is fair and fine but how about focusing on all the good that you do and all the effort you put into what you do. They say that what you focus on is what grows in your life so focus on the good qualities that you have… your resilience your strong character and even the love you have for children or humanity.
You have the power to shape your destiny
Talk to yourself and fake it until you make it. There has been research that shows that talking to plants makes them grow faster than plants that just receive water….imagine what positive talk will do for you. When you are sitting by yourself with nothing but your thoughts do you believe that you are more than a conqueror? Do you believe that you have the power to shape your destiny? If everything really does begin in the mind then maybe just maybe feeding yourself with positive talk and believing that you are special and unique will lead to great manifestations in your life.
You have not got to where you are in life by mistake, you are meant to enjoy your life and to be able to do that you need to acknowledge the role you play in your own life story.
A friend of mine and I were having a conversation and I was asking her how she is upbeat everyday and seems to soldier on through all the challenges that she has in her life. She told me about what she calls Godfidence. Initially I did not understand what she meant by this but as she started unpacking her philosophy to life and l got to understand Godfidence better. She said that she does not only have faith in God but she has faith in herself, she believes that with just her and her God by her side no mountain is to high. In life do not discredit yourself and do not listen to people who try to drag you down to their level.
Change your environment
A study done by Dijksterhuis showed that self-esteem can be influenced subtly. Be careful of the people you spend time with as they influence your implicit self-esteem. All the information you subliminally feed your brain about yourself is what you end up believing every snide comment that people around you say you absorb. Your environment is crucial for your self esteem when you surround yourself with people who build you up and are positive people you will begin to see the changes in your life. Your explicit and implicit self-esteem depends on what you tell yourself and what your environment or the people you surround yourself with say.
Teach people how to treat you
I hope that you are kind to yourself, taking care of yourself and building who you are because as Dr Phil says you teach people how to treat you. Start treating yourself like the queen that you are and feeding yourself positive mantras. Believe the beautiful things that you think about yourself and you will see the difference. The change will not happen overnight so give yourself time. In case you need help with believing more in yourself there are a few options that you could look at. You could try reading inspirational books that look into how people overcame the struggles in their lives. If you are not much of a reader the technological advancements allow you to listen to audio books. If you are on social media you could start following people that post inspirational memes and videos.
Refine your talents with education
Above all else spend time by yourself. Discover the things you like and spend time doing them, spoil yourself and make yourself a priority. In other words invest in yourself. A wise lady once told me that you should discover your talents and refine them with education. Educating yourself means you gather information and you look at how other people with your abilities have carved the way. Once you start doing the things that you love to do and enjoy doing you will feel good about yourself. It will be confirmation that once you put your mind to something you can do it.
Build from the inside
Focus on yourself and how special you are without comparing yourself to other people. Do not dwell on the mistakes that you have made in your life or all the bad things you have faced but focus on how you overcame them. Build yourself from the inside out and you will notice how it affects your whole outlook on life. You will experience a glow that will leave you open predating on good vibes.
Stay blessed and practice self love. MT